“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
According to Relational Cultural Theory (RCT), connection is at the center of our lives and throughout our lives we grow through and toward connection. We need connection and relationships to flourish and when we’re isolated and disconnected, we suffer. Additionally, it’s important to consider the cultural and systemic barriers to connection, such as the belief that we’re “supposed” to be independent and self-sufficient. When we are able to develop meaningful relationships, we experience the “Five Good Things” which include (a) zest; an increase in energy; (b) increased knowledge and clarity about one’s own experience, the other person, and the relationship; (c) creativity and productivity; (d) a greater sense of worth; and (e) a desire for more connection. The purpose of healing and therapy with RCT is to move toward connection, explore relational patterns, and develop more authenticity, mutual empathy, and mutual empowerment.